I’m not chasing after feminism

Feminism

I have avoided writing about feminism for so long because I have lost interest in that subject matter. I generally do not like labels. Don’t try to put me in a box by calling me a feminist. I’m just living my life and doing what my Father in heaven has called me to do.

Some months ago, I shared a dream with a friend and the person simply said, “Doyin you are too strong. Men will find you intimating.” I should be used to such comments but they baffle me really. My aunty thinks I’m too independent. An ex thought I was too ambitious. A random person thought I was intimidating because of the magnitude of my dreams. And there are those who, maybe because of their mental laziness, choose to slap you with the label ‘feminist’.

Like I said before I hate labels. They make you focused on the wrong things. When I was in secondary school, there was a time that I was so pre-occupied with ‘beating’ the person who always came first. That’s all I thought about; “I have to beat this girl.” I never really did. I always ended up coming third and sometimes lower than third.

One day my father told me I was limiting my ability by being pro-occupied with beating the girl who came first. “Set your target, meet that target and then surpass that target. Always seek to be better than yourself. You are your own competition.” When those words sunk in, I was in sixth form and I attained the first position not by trying to beat anyone. I did it simply by pushing myself and giving it my best shot.

That’s the way I approach life in general. You say this is a male dominated world. Ok. You say there is a glass ceiling that women cannot get through. I hear you. You say it is difficult for women to attain certain positions. I understand. But I am not bothered about those things. The women who made history faced dire odds but they did it regardless. Pastor Ibukun Awosika is the chairman of First Bank, something that could not have been imagined many years ago. Women like Tara Fela-Durotoye are leading successful brands and they are excelling at it. Can you tell me something else please?

I’m not saying the challenges are not there. I’m not denying the obvious display of sexism. All I am saying is that is not going to stop me from trying. That will not stop me from dreaming big dreams. It won’t stop me from aspiring for greatness. I am not trying to prove a point to any man. I just want to leave my footprints in the sand of time.

When God created me, He created me as an individual with a purpose. I’m here to fulfil that purpose and can I tell you, God’s plans for my life are massive. If that intimidates you, I suggest that you discover your God given purpose. Trust me, when you find your purpose someone else’s purpose will not intimidate you. We are all running different races.

So I’m not a feminist. I’m just God’s amazing child who is ready to do exploits despite the odds. My focus is not on the challenges and obstacles that are on the way. My focus is on where God is taking me to.

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One Reply to “I’m not chasing after feminism”

  1. I’m just God’s amazing child who is ready to do exploits despite the odds. My focus is not on the challenges and obstacles that are on the way. My focus is on where God is taking me to.

    #NotFeminist #GodsChosenVessel

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