I have been listening to and reading a lot of materials on leadership. I’m learning how to be a better leader and I’m arming myself with all the information and skills I need to run and lead a global organization. One of the books I’m reading right now is “Everyone Communicates, Few Connect” by John Maxwell. It’s such a great book! I love the way he breaks down the art of connecting with people.
There are two things I have been reflecting on since I started reading this book; breaking away from the “me” mentality and the issue of maturity. In a way, they are both related. A mature person is not self-centred. Such a person is able to see the bigger picture and the person also knows that life is not all about them.
John Maxwell wrote something in the book that made me go “Aha!” Here it is;
Maturity does not always come with age; sometimes age comes alone.
Honestly, this is something I have been thinking about for a while now. We have so many immature grown people in our world today. They are old in terms of age but in terms of maturity, they act like babies. I have watched young people who ideally should know better waste opportunities to learn because they are immature. I have seen talented people miss it several times because they are simply not mature enough to handle certain things.
One big sign of immaturity is insecurity. When you keep having to affirm your position or status to people, there is a problem. Empty barrels make the most noise remember. I mean it’s so sad seeing a talented young man rubbing off his talent in the face of people just because he can. “Do you know who I am, do you know how talented I am?” Who cares? You don’t have to shout about it. If you are really talented, people will notice. That’s how it works. Stop shouting louder than your capacity. Have you noticed that is the shallow people that always seem to have something to prove? “I’m better than you, you’re not in my league, we are not on the same level.” It actually sends chills down my spine.
We need to grow up. Mature people understand that life is in phases. You cannot always be at the top. Even if you feel you deserve to be at the top, can you learn how to be a good sport where you are until God opens a position at the top for you? If you have a bad attitude as a follower, you will have a bad attitude as a leader and followers who have bad attitudes hardly ever go far. It’s all about time and season people.
I’m still trying to understand why we’re in such a hurry. Everyone wants to be a leader. Everybody wants to feel like a boss. But nobody wants to learn. Why? We step on people, throw tantrums, cuddle up to those who we think will get us to positions of leadership faster but we forget that promotion comes from God. Be mature enough to handle where you are right now.
I want to run my business full time. I want to go around the world empowering people. I want to do so many things but it’s not time yet. There are a lot of things I need to learn. I need to learn how to build someone’s vision. I need to learn how to deliver excellent results. I need to learn how to be respectful, not just to my superiors but also to those who are below me and to my colleagues. I need to learn that life is not about me. I need to get better. I need to grow.
Don’t let your age come alone. Please add some maturity to it. Be mature enough to admit when you’re wrong. Be mature enough to be respectful to people. There are too many rude and uncultured people running around these days. Don’t be one of them. Be mature enough to know that life does not revolve around you.