I have missed blogging! Finding the right balance between all my different roles has been quite the struggle. I’m juggling so many different balls and I’m trying not to let any one of them fall. How do married women do it? Just imagine if I had a husband and kids somewhere with all of this!
Over the weekend I learnt a very important lesson. I’m always learning lessons and it’s good. You should too; it’s part of life. You cannot grow if you don’t learn. Ok where was I? The lesson I learnt. It’s a simple lesson really and here it goes – “Be thankful for where you are right now.” I told you it was a simple lesson. Isn’t funny how we strongly desire to move from our present situation that we fail to recognise the joys of that same situation? In every situation, no matter how bad, there is something to be thankful for. Are you broke? Be thankful that you are being taught how to spend wisely. Are you single? Be thankful that you still have this precious time where you can decide what you want to do with your life and time.
Somehow, I have more married friends than single friends and I have seen that marriage is not a bed of roses. As my friends and I will say, “It is not beans!” While it is an honourable thing, it is something that requires great strength and wisdom. And if you are a woman, it requires more strength and wisdom on your part. I’m not getting married tomorrow but the marriage tips are overwhelming already. One day I had to tell God, “Thank you for this single life”. I am where God wants me to be and I am doing exactly what He wants me to do. I can decide that I want to stay in church from morning till evening. The only person I have to answer to right now is my mum. If I come home and I don’t feel like cooking, that’s my business. I can make indomie, soak garri or order food from somewhere. I’m grateful for those little privileges of the single life.
While you dream and aspire for the best, always remain thankful for where you are right now. As absurd as it may sound, your present position is someone’s dream! Hard to believe right? Any time I want to complain about not having a car, I thank God that I can afford money to get on a bus. I also thank God that I am not hopping on a bus with three infants. One of the privileges of living on a budget is that you get to experience a different side of life. My eyes have seen things just observing things happening on the streets of Lagos. I quietly take it all in. You see men and women struggling, working so hard and for most of them, it is not guaranteed that they will make N5,000 in a day, yet they have tons of mouths to feed. It’s sad but that is the reality. The money I earn is for me. I am not pressured to spend it in a particular way. No one’s survival depends on me. I am thankful for that.
I am also thankful that I have a roof over my head. I am not sleeping on the streets. Even when I thought things were so bad, I was never homeless. Never. Help always located me when I needed it. God has indeed been faithful to me. You need to take stock of the great things God has done in your life. Please note that these ‘great things’ may be what you and I consider as little things. Things like having food on your table, having clothes to wear…when you go out into the world, you will realise that they are great privileges. Thank God for them. Greater things are in store for you but please don’t get hung up on expecting the great things that you fail to acknowledge the everyday blessings God gives you.
Honestly, I could go on and on but I’m sure you get the point. Be grateful for where you are. Have faith in God that the best is yet to come while giving Him thanks for what you have right now. And do you know the interesting thing about being thankful? It pleases God. God loves a person with a heart of gratitude. Don’t become too familiar with God’s blessings that you begin to take them for granted, Even if things are not working the way you want them to work, you can always find at least five (not one) things to be thankful for.
Have a great week ahead and fingers crossed, I would be able to write more this week. Amen and amen.